interview. Sometimes we go through great miles financially to show up for an interview only to get ghosted after. It is a very heart rending experience. Ghosting is disrespectful. Tell me, I can take it, it is the silence I do not know what to make of. Was it my qualifications? Was it my dressing? Was it my articulation? What was it? Say something, please- an automatic email response even. There’s closure and some dignity in that. When you ghost on me: 1. I get deep feelings of rejection. Job searches come with their own share of hardships. The hope and dreams packaged in an application are beyond what most of us can articulate. While we know an interview can swing either way, lack of follow through after an interview could trigger our earliest feelings of rejection. 2. I feel Confused and develop self-doubt: Was it me? It probably was, but what is it about me that is so wrong? How do I ever convince any other employer that I have what it takes when all I get is SILENCE? 3. My mental health is negatively impacted: Stress, anxiety, depression! Sometimes eating and sleep becomes a luxury. This job could mean a new dawn for me so I hold on to hope until I can’t anymore. But my parents knew I attended an interview, my close friends, my spouse perhaps. What do I tell them happened? Should I keep subsequent interviews to myself? Then… they will think I am not making an effort. See how hard that is? 4. My self-esteem is challenged : I doubt my own worth and desirability reinforcing negative beliefs I may have about myself, leading to a decrease in self-confidence and self-worth. How do I interview well for the next role when all these feelings linger? My papers show I am qualified. My skill set and experience show I am capable. My attitude is great. My challenge is how do I make you see that when someone already planted a seed of doubt? 5. It becomes hard to find closure. But why is closure important? It provides me a sense of resolution and finality freeing up emotional energy allowing me to map out my next way forward. Allows me to know what to work on next time. Keeps my morale high. See…. This will happen to the best of us, even those who have done some serious healing work! Those with great experience and the most optimistic of us. I promise keeping a positive outlook won’t prevent these hurts, timely and respectful feedback will. I do not need a thicker skin, I much rather stay soft and grounded. Will you work with me please? Signed with thanks Grace For and on behalf of the
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